Man Says Wife Upset He Doesn’t Want Her to Wear Pimple Patches to a Wedding

A man says his wife is “upset” because he asked her to refrain from wearing pimple patches at his sister’s wedding, and he’s unsure if he crossed a line.

The 41-year-old detailed his story on the popular Reddit forum “Am I the A——?”, where Redditors can go to seek advice about interpersonal dilemmas. In his post, the man explained that his wife, 43, “has struggled with cystic acne her whole teenage and adult life.”

“She’s a teacher at an all-girls private high school and [wears] visible star-shaped pimple patches (without makeup) in class to help the students feel more comfortable. I think that’s wonderful in that context. Also, I honestly think my wife looks cute wearing those pimple patches,” he added.

The OP then went on to share that their family is getting ready to attend his sister’s upcoming wedding, and that his wife “wants to go wearing visible star-shaped pimples patches without makeup.”

The problem? His 13-year-old daughter — who he says is also currently “struggling with cystic acne” — feels as though the stickers will draw attention to her mom’s acne, which will in turn draw more attention to her acne.

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The man said that he has since asked his wife not to wear the patches to the wedding — though he said he purposefully did not mention his daughter’s feelings because she told him that she did not want her mother to know. Instead, he said that he told his wife that he was worried the patches would not be appropriate for a formal occasion.

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The OP says that his wife is now “upset” and is “questioning my previous statements when I had told her that she looks cute with them.”

“Am I the a——?” he asked at the end of his post.

The vast majority of Reddit users said they sympathized with the man’s conundrum and that they thought his wife was on the wrong side of the argument.

“NTA [not the a——],” one person said. “Tell her that you love her in sexy undies but you wouldn’t want her to go to a wedding in only them. So questioning your previous statements about them being cute is a bit over the top. There is a time and place for everything and pimple patches at a wedding is pretty tacky in my opinion.”

Another person said, “NTA. I know she has good intentions, but [wearing pimple patches] will make her look like an attention seeker … It’s a wedding and there’s a level of class/formality that’s to be expected.”

“I think there is a difference [between] everyday empowerment and being visible in photos for a wedding that the bride will spend a lot of money on. It’s a formal setting and [your wife] needs to [dress as though she’s] in a formal setting,” added someone else.